People’s core intentions stem from who they identify themselves to be, and they communicate according to who they perceive others to be. For example: It is not uncommon to see military people conducting themselves in a military way in their personal relationships and social situations. How people ask questions may reflect the intentions or purpose by which they live their entire life - they either hold mainstream beliefs or are alternative thinkers.
If you question someone’s intentions, they often react defensively because their identity and character is being scrutinised. Some may argue their real intent if challenged, but it is usually made pretty obvious by a person’s tone, mannerisms and choice of words. We can easily read between the lines and determine if a person is genuinely open, has your wellbeing in mind, or, is trying to undermine you in anyway.
Most people know the feeling when someone asks a question and they have obviously already jumped to a conclusion. No matter what you say, you aren’t going to change their mind. It can be impossible to prove your innocence or have your point of view be heard.
In my line of work, where practically everything I think, do or say goes against the grain, I have a lot of people ask me questions. Over the years I started noting what I thought people’s intentions were, and how they were expressed through their questioning. I have defined what are essentially the 12 reasons why someone would ask a question. The intent may be one or more of the following:
These intentions are equally relevant to everything we think, do and say - I just find it fun relating them to questions.
It is important to realise that those with a ‘negative’ intent are never aware of their true intentions! They are not aware of the difference between a reaction and a conscious response. Their questions only arise from their existing level of understanding and awareness. Therefore, they only care about voicing their opinions and how they feel. They often project their state onto you and remain blind to all other perspectives and approaches.
The intentions behind asking questions has been the topic of many hilarious conversations, so I thought it would be good to share it at the start of the week - for you to have fun applying it in your interactions. I haven’t finished developing this part of the material yet, but I thought you might have some fun with it in the meantime.
...so what do you think? :)
Brian Gerard Schaefer :)
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Brian Gerard Schaefer is an author and a self-educated wholistic natural therapist, specialising in kinesiology, myopractic, spiritual counselling, diet and nutrition. He presents seminars and workshops on healing, kinesiology, meditation and personal development.